Ending up with an emergency C-section can be disappointing at best, traumatic at worst. Here are 5 things I told myself to help me cope with it.
1. C-sections save lives.
C-section probability varies from each person, community, country, and so on. Makes more sense, but it doesn’t make a catchy headline.
2. All your efforts to stay healthy will still pay off.
Staying healthy while pregnant is a matter of conscience, not vanity.
3. Recovering from a C-section is painful, but there’s no such thing as painless birth.
4. Giving birth naturally is no guarantee that you’ll recover quickly.
5. Birth is only the beginning of motherhood, not the end of it.
Okay, so you're disappointed. And what better way to start motherhood, which is full of that. Next thing you know, you're getting a call from the principal's office because your child pulled a prank on his terror teacher. (But honestly, that would be hilarious and would probably make me feel inappropriately proud of my son.)
Kidding aside, I know that most emergency C-section stories go like this: you go into the hospital with doctor's orders for a normal delivery, you get into the labor room and stay there for a few hours, something goes wrong--you don't progress, your blood pressure rises, or your baby's heart rate drops. You're given the option to have a C-section or risk it all for a normal delivery. You drop all hopes of a satisfying normal delivery for you and your baby's safety.
Risking my son's life just so I can have an amazing birth experience sounds a bit selfish to me. Not a great way to start parenting at all.
They say that a natural birth gives a woman an amazing sense of power. I believe that, and I wanted that bad. But risking my son's life just so I can have an amazing birth experience sounds a bit selfish to me. Not a great way to kickstart my parenting journey at all.
I remember one of the parting messages from the documentary, The Business of Being Born. Non-verbatim, but it goes something like this: "If you do a C-section to an animal, it doesn't take care of its young. What happens if you do it to people?" (Even if I find the rhetoric to be a bit extreme, I still recommend watching it. Just take everything with a grain of salt. It's on Netflix, by the way.)
One C-section and seven months into motherhood, I am very much taking care of my son--with help only coming from my husband for the most part.
So, you were saying?